Every precious baby has their own story about entering this world. This blog is about my journey to becoming a mother to Matilda. I have so much admiration for the healing and therapeutic powers of essential oils, they have been incredible for supporting me through my pregnancy, birth and postpartum recovery. Armed with the right mix of oils to help me emotionally, physically, and mentally, this is my story.
A week later at my 40 week appointment, I fell into the Doctor’s room in tears. He made a phone call, looked at the hospital schedule and the next thing I knew, I was booked in the following day! Whist I had feelings of relief, I was also feeling extremely anxious. I made the hour drive home to my little family. I sat down to discuss with my husband Grant, he was supportive and understanding, he knew how hard these last weeks had become. He helped me feed, bath and get Maisie ready for bed, it was surreal knowing this was the last night at home as a family of 3. Was this the right thing to do? I wasn’t sure what this induction would involve. That night I applied oils to help me relax and get comfortable. I prayed. I didn’t sleep much.
I got up the next morning and started my daily routine as normal with Maisie. I got everyone’s bags ready, I had packed a bag each for Grant, Maisie and baby. We spent the morning with my niece Abbie. Grant came home at lunch, I put Maisie to bed and we cleaned the house together. We dropped Maisie off with her Grandma and checked in to the local hospital that night.
I was booked into room number 5, this was the same room I had when Maisie was born less than 2 years prior. Beautiful memories came flooding back. That night, the doctor came in and discussed how we were going to dilate my cervix. My heart sank when the midwife gave me the talk about this intervention. With an induction, often once you start intervening, you need to keep intervening. All of a sudden, my natural birth was no longer going to be that. At that moment I wanted to pick up my bag and leave. I was so disappointed with myself that I hadn’t done the research and hadn’t empowered myself with the right knowledge. Maybe I should have asked more questions, maybe I should have discussed with a midwife before booking in. There was no turning back now. I felt so guilty, yet excited that we were hours from meeting our precious baby.
I diffused a combination of Lavender and Clary Sage to help my body prepare and relax for birth the next day. I was due to have my waters broken early in the morning, but due to another new mum coming in during the night to have her baby, I had to wait until after lunch. I was hoping this extra time would bring on contractions naturally, but sadly not. I gave myself an aromatic dressing with Frankincense. I mixed 5 drops with a tablespoon of fractionated coconut oil and applied this to my entire body with large wide circular motions. I spent a little time meditating and letting the Frankincense do its thing. I was able to relax and rest. I diffused and applied Balance to my feet. This extra time in the morning gave me the chance to select a couple of oils to take to the labour ward with me. I inhaled the aroma from each and carefully selected Lavender, Clary Sage, Frankincense and Copaiba to support my labour.
I prayed that I would have the right midwife and doctor onboard. As soon as I met Amanda and Heidi, my midwives, I knew I was in the right hands. Heidi was young and enthusiastic. This was her first year out of uni, and her humour was wonderful. Amanda was so excited to have me bring my essential oils along for the birth. She had trained as a midwife in the UK and had done training in aromatherapy as part of her studies. I had given my hubby a few instructions on the oils. I had read about different oils for different stages of labour, but due to the induction process I knew it was probably best to select a couple and keep it simple. I knew I was armed with the right mix of oils to help me emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.